Excuses We Give to Avoid Collaboration

Excuses We Give to Avoid Collaboration

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I recently had a conversation with Mattie James, about the lack of collaboration in blogging and business.

It’s a conversation that I’ve had often over the years and one, that is becoming increasingly important given the changing dynamic of today’s workforce.

I’ve always believed that we all hold a key piece to another person’s puzzle or have a particular expertise or skill set that could benefit someone else.  A few years ago, I even created a mini experiment based on that theory with a handpicked group of 6 people on different career paths. I brought all of us together and asked How can I support you? and How can we support one another?

The plan was simple: we would keep each other in the loop about projects or events we were working on and if we had any resources that might help we shared them freely or we just showed up, physically if it was an actual event and digitally if the work lived online.

For a short while, it worked out brilliantly and helped each of us enhance or amplify the work that we were doing. But eventually the excitement wore off and the experiment fizzled out. I reflected on this after my call with James and started thinking of all of the excuses reasons we give for not collaborating more:

“This other person isn’t contributing or pulling their weight.”

“Someone might steal my idea.”

“I’m only in it for the money.”

“I’ll never get credit for all of my hard work.”

“S/he is my competition, I can’t work with them.”

“I don’t like him/her.”

“I don’t have the time.”

“How does this benefit me?”

“I’ve been burned on a group project before and I won’t let it happen again.”

“I’m nobody. They probably won’t work with me.”

We can continue to make and believe these excuses and deprive ourselves of opportunities that could expand our work, net worth and network. Or, we can take our chances and collaborate more.

Who knows? Next time, we might get lucky.

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  • imperfctconcept

    Yes, I had a similar conversation with Mattie too! It also goes to we are good at checking on each other awhile than personal life takes back over. We all have moments of “me centric” not on purpose. We all want our projects to rise to the top & then help others. Once we as individual personally decided to make the commit to collaborate excuses will fall to the waist side. In addition to people feel scared to share their hopes & dreams with others that said person might run off with it! But if they knew to protect their intellectually property & gather trusted sources not the hottest person on the block they be good!

    • MissSuccess

      All true!

  • You know, I wont act like I have not felt this way when I first started. The more robust social media gets the less people feel confidant about their brand/business. We are told to stay business-minded, focus on the checks and then in the same breath we know that opportunities sometimes come with free projects and community outreach. It burns people out and unfortunately their dreams goes with it. My answer – make every move a power move- plan with strategy (use resources, be innovative gain strong sponsors and put money/quality in great marketing), create exclusivity, rethink and re inspire. Their is enough out there to change consumers minds business owners as well but the effort must be matched by everyone.

    • MissSuccess

      Love the honesty Pamela! Thanks for reading.

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